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Tina W. · Guru

Venting!

sara zata · Guru

I'm sorry that this has happened to you Tina, but I have heard of other people having bad experiences with Ebay. I believe if you purchase something on ebay it is at yopur own risk. What a hide, pity you hadn't opened it in the post office and let the postal people see what they where doing was a scam. XXXXXX June.

Play Days Dolls · Guru

That is TERRIBLE! What kind of evil people are lurking out there on eBay these days? It's downright scary. Tina, do you care to share the eBay ID of this latest scam artist? There must surely be something you can do to make eBay pay you back. I think they were way too hasty to rule in the purchaser's favor. They ought to reimburse you.

Amanda Hundley · Member

Hi Everyone,
I just need to vent ,for a moment, I hope that's alright. I have loved baby dolls all of my life ,as long as I can remember. So when I started reborning it just stole my heart because now I can take baby dolls ,and make them more real. Sometimes ,after I finish one I'll cuddle it for a bit. I have a crib and a few other baby items in my spare bedroom. I mostly use these items as photo props ,for my reborns, but I display my dolls in them ,as well. My sister-in-law came into my house the other day and just started snooping around. Well, wouldn't you know that the first room that she made a b line for was my spare room. She seems to think that I'm some kind of nut case because I love my dolls ,and because I have a few real baby items to go along with them. Why does it bother her so much? She treats me so rudely when it comes to my dolls ,and I just don't understand why. I'm not bringing them to her house or out in public for fear that I will run into her or my mother-in-law and embarres them. So what is her problem? Why does she treat me this way? I love dolls and probably always will my husband doesn't mind the dolls. In fact, he's kind of wanting to learn the art himself. If she doesn't like the dolls fine ,but don't make me feel like the weirdo of the family for doing what I love. I would love to be able to take a baby out in public to get peoples reactions ,and maybe drum up some business ,but I can't because of her. My husband and I don't have children yet ,and we may never be able to because of his health problems so is there really anything wrong with me loving my babies. Has anyone else experienced similar problems ,and if so how did you handle it. Please tell me that I'm not nuts for loving my babies because she sure makes me feel like I'm crazy. To me, my babies bring a little bit of joy into my life even in the toughest times so what's wrong with cuddling them or putting them in a baby bed. I hope that someone reading this will understand where I'm coming from ,and want to share your similar experiences ,with me, so that I'll know that I'm not alone because sometimes I truly feel like I am except for my loving husband ,of course. Thanks for reading this post ,and for letting me vent.
Hugs,
Amanda

sage brush nursery · Guru

that women sounds aweful, it's none of her business. if her life was so together and fulfiling she wouldn't need to put you down to make herself feel better, let alone mind your business. you are an ARTIST and your letting these insects make you FEEL ashamed and hide your light under a bushel. now thats insane . IT COMES DOWN TO THIS....ARE THEY PAYING YOUR BILLS....ARE YOU SLEEPING WITH THEM.NO ...SO THEY NEED TO PISS OFF. make a realy great baby and enter it in your county fair, take baby out .you'll soon see that their thoughts on the matter are not the norm. i expect more of you as a fellow ARTIST. lecture over, done with love. sage disbelief

Need help · Senior Member

Not problem about venting we all do it. I agree with the others. To me she has no business coming into your home and putting you down! Maybe she's jealous because she can't do the work you do! As long as she's not paying your bills and your not asking her for money to do your dolls I'd tell her to CLAM UP if you can't come to my house without complaining don't come. Your husband stands behind you that 's all that count. MY husband doen't care for my dolls you know what I don't care I don't ask him for any money to do them do so he can't complain. By all means take your baby out to the store . At lot of us have it's fun and the reaction from a lot of people is fun. Also good advertisement if your trying to sell them.I;m ready to take mine out again. I think their is a place on here titled Babies Day Out! I enjoyed reading it.You might too!
Linda

Amanda Hundley · Member

Hello Ladies,
It's so nice to know that there are others like myself out there. I feel much better now. She just truly made me feel horrible ,but who knows how many sales I've missed out on by not taking my babies with me. My husband has gotten so frustrated ,at me, several times because he's wanted me to take a baby out somewhere with us and I've refused. He has a lot of problems with the way his sister treats me over the babies ,and a lot of the things that you ladies are telling me are things that he's already said to me before. It's just so good to hear it from my fellow reborn artists though. Besides who can resist giving a cute baby a cuddle ,even if it is a reborn. I'm so glad that I'm a member of the forum ,and can chat with other artists ,like myself. I guess now all I need to do is get off my duff and take a baby with me on my next grocery trip. That and ignore my sister-in-law that's the big one. Thanks to all of you wonderful ladies for all of the advice.
Hugs,
Amanda

sage brush nursery · Guru

hey i have another in law and she luckly likes the babies but i say a little as possible to her.she's a person whose veiw is the only the right one .so yeah i know how it is . but realy take baby out ......just wait till someone wants to know how old it is......its a great reality check of your art.get some free cards from vista and pass them out on your day out.....oh don't forget to post about it.........we'd love to hear how it went. sage aww

Play Days Dolls · Guru

Amanda, everything you are telling us sounds completely normal to me. Of course, I'm a reborn artist like you with most of TWO spare rooms devoted to dolls, baby equipment, parts, and supplies. Bah humbug to your sister-in-law and any other people in your life that treat you with disrespect for they have truly missed the boat. It takes skill, creativity, and loads of patience to perform the magic that happens when a kit or play doll is transformed into a doll that may be mistaken for a human baby.

I would turn the tables on them and take a doll out to get people's reactions. First, it should give you an idea of how realistic your dolls are and you'll be able to judge what, if anything, you need to improve. Second, it will get the word out about your art and maybe attract some business.

Next time she comes over, invite her for a sleepover in the doll room. Better yet, tell her you would be happy to teach her how to reborn, and quote a price for your class and supplies.

Just remember... you are the normal one!

Linda

Dee · Guru

Amanda you are not by yourself, my mom calls me crazy all the time but I don't care I'm not bothering anyone she says stupid stuff like your husbands gonna leave you and all those dolls, my husband does not care as long as I am happy, he likes to look at my babies he goes into my doll room all the time, he even has a favorite one, so don't let them bother you, I always say at least I'm not a drug addict or alcholic. Have fun and continue to love your babies.

Tina W. · Guru

It is sad that there are some people in the world that are so unsatisifed with something in thier own life that they need to find fault in anyone elses. I have baby things in my spare room as well so your not alone. I am lucky enough though the people who matter in my life totally support my hobby and for those who don't I just smile my way to the bank :) I have a few favorites that stay with me and yes I dress them up and change thier outfits and or course give them a cuddle.
So glad you found the forum where you can get support from fellow artist and truly enjoy your babies and expand your talents.

Amanda Hundley · Member

I truly love this forum and all of you wonderful ladies ,as well. I'm so glad that I'm not alone in this and that there are people ,like me, in the world. I will definately take my babies out to see how people react. It will be really helpful to see how real they look to other people. I had just never thought of it that way. My husband loves my dolls ,as well. He just marvels at every one that I finish ,just as if I had actually given birth to it. So that's a big confidence booster ,for me. A lot of times ,if he can't sleep, my husband will go to the spare bedroom get a baby and sit and rock it for a while. He says that it's very soothing to him ,but I don't think that he has a favorite he seems to fall in love with every one that I make. Having him is a great support system ,for me. He gets furious at his sister for treating me the way that she does over the dolls. I'm looking forward to taking a baby out now just to see how people react to it ,and I'll definately let you ladies know how it goes. It just feels so good to be able to converse with other artists. Now I don't feel as if I'm the only one around.
Hugs,
Amanda

Buffington · Guru

I am also glad for this forum and the people in it. My daughters like my dolls but do not share my love or reborning :(
My husband doesn't hold them or anything, nor does he want them all over the house, and no baby heads laying around hahaha, especially the sleepers. He is a military veteran and it freaks him out with the sleepers. But I hear him telling people all the time what nice work I do.
I even take them out but I always carry biz cards with me.

I too think your S.I.L. should mind her own business. If she (and your M.I.L.) don't like them they don't have to look. She's the one that went into your spare room snooping! My mother always said... "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all!". And as far as feeling afraid to take them out in public for fear of seeing them and/or embarassing them, too darned bad. They can walk away if they want to. I think your DH is great for defending you like that, and for loveing your babies! Hazzaahh for him.
Now, go take your babies out in public and never mind the nay-sayers! And don't forget to post in babies day out. :)

As far as evilbay, I would demand from them an appeal of some sort! They think they're so big, well they're getting a bad reputation siding with all the creeps and scammers. I think I'll just stick to art shows! If you get no satisfaction you can always go to your local news channel (or theirs) and have them investigated! Go ahead... be a rabble rouser! I am so very tired of everyone walking on eggshells and being overly politically correct! No one else does that for us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!