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sara zata · Guru

My husband, Sam

mkhammy1 · Senior Member

Oh, Sara! I'm so sorry to hear about Sam's additional problems. It just doesn't seem fair that so much has been dumped on you! I'll be keeping you and Sam in my thoughts and prayers!
Hugs, Melinda

Play Days Dolls · Guru

Oh what a terrible run of horrible luck you and Sam have had! I wish I could bottle up and send you and Sam some healing, optimism, energy, and whatever else you need to deal with all the problems.

On the bright side...Macy is okay, Sam's doctor found the tumor before it could do more damage, you got protection from swine flu and tetanus all in one week so you have no worries about those ailments.

We will be thinking of you and Sam.

Hugs,

Dee · Guru

June I am so sorry that you all are having so much put on you,I will keep you both in my prayers I know what it is like to have a sick husband, I am glad that Macey is ok, you guys stay strong, God Bless you both.

sara zata · Guru

Yes and I still have a sence of humor. LOL. I guess things are sent to try us or we wouldn't have a care in the world. I can't help thinking women were made to carry the burdens. I have faith he will go through this and come out a stronger person. XXXXX June.

Tina W. · Guru

This has been one doozy on a year. I for one can't wait for a change, need a bit of good fortune here as well. June, best wishes that all goes well and things begin to turn around for you too.

Buffington · Guru

June hun, there you go again! Yes, we do get these things to bear and we go on as survivors and you and Sam sure are survivors! keep it up and keep the faith... "and this to shall pass". Tomorrow will be a better day, and Bob's your uncle!
I am praying for a better year for you and your family hun. Glad little Macey is ok. You got some good and bad stuff here so lets throw out the bad so the good can come in and stay. Keep your humor hun, it makes things more bearable.

My aunt in Texas is back in the hospital... her dr has called the family together now (she is terminal with lung cancer). She had a bout with pneumonia 2 weeks ago and it got better, finished her radiation, chemo, alternate drug therapy and put up a good fight. But I think she's tired now and needs to just let go. She's been fighting this for 1 1/2 years. She's on oxygen all the time now. The cancer has consumed most of her body. She called my cousin yesterday just to say she loved her. My cousin called me cause she freaked out and said she had a bad feeling about it now. So I think the end is near. But she's always had a good attitude about this cancer thing, I think it just got the best of her now. Her attitude and prayer has kept her going this long. So her son, daughter, and my parents (it's my fathers sister) are also going down there to be with her.

Tina W. · Guru

How sad Pat, Cancer is such a distructive illness. My 86 year old grandmother just passed from stomach cancer Friday. Funny thing was is she smoked for over 50 years and gave them up 15 years ago. The Dr.s said her lungs bounce back so quickly is was amazing for a woman her ago and smoking for so long. She's been battling Alzheimer's for about 2 years and complaining about her stomach in between bouts. Once they found it, it was too late. One week later....I guess in a way is was a blessing give the forces of two evils and all. She went painfree in the end. My aunt battled breast cancer for years..horrible pain but awesome spirit all the way til the end.
God bless and prayers to both your aunt and June husband.

sara zata · Guru

Sorry to hear about your Aunt Pat, But I know once you have it in your lungs, there isn't much help. Hopefully she will go pain free. My mum had pancreatic cancer and it went to the lungs, I had been told to expect her to get angry at the last minute and as she was a very polite, peaceful and helpfull Mum, about 8 hrs before she passed, She said, Billi, what are you doing here, and Juney, You should be home with the kids. THen she said Where's Don (My Dad ) I want him here. She was agitated because of all the people talking and muttering, so we cleared the room and got Dad for awhile, then Sam and I sat with her till the end. She was having injections every time she stired. Then the Dr. came in and said we should get the rest of the family in as she would only have a short time to go after the last injection. I guess he was one of the good ones. Hope your Aunt's DR. is also Pat. XXXXXX June.

Buffington · Guru

Thanks all for the thoughts and expressions.
Tina, my condolences to you and your family on the loss of your grandmother. :(

Yes, my aunt Kay has had a tremendous spirit and attitude through this entire thing. She never blamed anyone but herself for smoking and getting lung cancer. I think that helped her to cope with it. I am waiting to hear as I know it will be any time now. I'll keep you posted.

Again, thanks all for the support and prayers.
((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))

Buffington · Guru

I want to thank you all for your support for my aunt. Her son finally came in from Costa Rica last night, his sister was already there as were my parents.
My aunt died tonight about 9:15 PM from complications of cancer. She had a massive amount of bloodclots in her lungs. I know she was just waiting for her son to come in, which he did. At least she's not in any more pain. The funeral/memorial will be held in Texas where her and her husband moved. Her daughter will have a small memorial service here in Minnesota after her return.
My aunt Kay was a heck of a fighter. She fought this for 2 years and now she has gone home. I told my mother today that she was tired, her body was tired and it was time for her to be called home. I asked a friend to pray for her and she said the same thing as I did "thy will be done" and it was.
I was on my way home tonight from school and started to cry not 5 minutes before I got the call from my sister in Arizona telling me of my aunts death. I also called my friend and he was driving but there for me. It's so nice to have friends like that. I just love him. He's been very supportive. He's my rock!

Sorry to ramble and be long-winded but... again, thanks for listening :/

Tina W. · Guru

Aww Pat. Friends are definately a wonderful thing to have in such a time.
My condolences.

Dee · Guru

Pat I am so sorry about your aunt you have my deepest sympathy, I am glad that she got to see her son, she is safe with the Lord, in a place where there is no pain, you and your family are in my prayers.

Buffington · Guru

Thank you all. I also like this forum because everyone here is so warm and friendly. Willing to listen and to share.

My cousin (whom I'm close to) called me this morning. Her eldest son who is 46, was found dead in his vehicle last night. She got the call. So not only my aunt (her cousin) is gone but also her son (within 2 days of eachother). They will do an autopsy this morning as they do not know why he died. A Dr was jogging by and noticed something wasn't right with him and called emergency. Her other children came to stay with her now. It's a mother's nightmare having your child go no matter how old or young they are. She's making funeral arrangements.
I hope we're done now, I don't know how much more I can deal with. Thank you all for being there for me.

Play Days Dolls · Guru

Pat, here's a big hug for you, and there's more where that comes from. (Picture it and feel it?)

Words just escape me at a time like this, and I feel sad that you will miss your loved ones.

Hugs,

Buffington · Guru

Thanks Linda. Chuck's funeral is tomorrow. I'll go there on my way to school. And thanks for the big hug! :)
Everyone at school has been real supportive and giving me lots of great hugs too! I like it there and here in forum. I might have to wear sun glasses tomorrow to school. I know as soon as I see my cousin Judi we'll both start to cry and hug each other. It's going to be hard but it's harder for her as it was her first-born son who died.
I'll always be there for her.
Thanks again and (((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) back!

ronelhamaty · Senior Member

Hi Ladies

I have't been on the forum for awhile. I am so sorry hear about the bad news. I am thinking of you all and will keep you in my prayers.

Hugs

Dee · Guru

Oh Pat I am so sorry about Chuck, you are in my prayers try to stay strong God Bless you and your family.

Buffington · Guru

Welcome back Ronel and thanks :)
You too Dee, thanks much.

Tina W. · Guru

Pat,
So sorry to hear about your cousin's son. Wow this has been one doozy of a year! I for one can't wait for it to end.

Buffington · Guru

I don't mind if it's not over yet as long as people quit going away KNIM?

Tina W. · Guru

I don't know. My year started its down fall early. I think so far I've have 4 straight stress free months, after that...YUCK operations, accidents, passings, just don't know how much more a person can take.

Buffington · Guru

I know. I'm sorry to hear about all your stuff you've had hun :(
Now I'm sick from all the stress. Sinus stuff went into the chest and got 102 degree fever on top of that! I got meds though but it's still the getting better part that takes time. I wish the rest of the year (since obviously we can't just by-pass it) to be better for you!

June, haven't seen you here for a while, hope Sam is doing ok.

Tina W. · Guru

Thank you Pat. Hope things get a bit better for you as well.

Play Days Dolls · Guru

How is everyone doing? Pat, I hope you don't have the flu or the H1N1.

I can't wait for all the bad stuff to end either. I'd be happy for a new year to begin, but I'm not so sure the bad stuff is tied to a specific day, month, or year! I'm just praying for good health and no more medical problems, miracles to solve the Dreyer family economic problems caused by a lot of bad luck and an employer who cut pay to stay in business, and ... well, world peace.

Buffington · Guru

Nope hun, no flu or Swine flu (H1N1). Just got a sinus infection that went to my chest (didn't catch it quick enough) :(
Feeling better though, still got a cough but I suppose till all that stuff is out of my lungs it's better to cough it out! My best buddy is sick now, he says it's a cold (hope it's not more serious, AND he's a smoker on top if it!).

Ya, everyone has "stuff" whether its health or economic. I wish everything would all be better for everyone! It would be nice to finish out the year on a good note eh? :)
Oh yeah, like you said, and world peace :)

Play Days Dolls · Guru

Glad you are on the mend. Those sinus infections are no fun. I'm relieved it wasn't the flu. I hear that stuff is very nasty.

Buffington · Guru

Thanks, almost better. Here in Minnesota it's been cold and rainy so when I go outside the cold hits my lungs and I still cough, but mostly ok now.
My buddy is still sick (checking him out for swine flu symptoms) so I'm being a good friend and seeing that he gets meds and takes care of himself. Won't stop smoking though :( but being an ex-smoker myself I know how hard it can be for some. He said he's very pragmatic about things though, that attitude makes it hard for me. But I still take care of him whether he wants me to or not. That's just the kind of friend I am I guess. :)

We have lost many to the swine flu here in the states. Now our state is vacinating the prisoners in prisons first instead of giving the vacine to those people who need it. Such a waste I think (IMHO). I know the criminals are human too but they are in prison for a reason... what about the elderly and children, don't they deserve to live too? They are innocent bystanders. OK, I'll get off my soap-box now. Just had to add that I guess. :o

Thanks for the well-wishes :)

Tina W. · Guru

I do hope your friend is on the mend soon. My husband was a smoker for over 20 years, I never thought he'd give them up, but he's been smoke free for 6 monthes. Yippee! I too quit when he did I wasn't a heavy smoker, but due to the high cost of them here , I was able to buy a new car with my savings. Anyway I was getting at, a person has to be ready to quit themselves, it's never too late. Each person needs to find a reason to quit that works for them, it's not easy though.

-- Edited by Tina W. on Thursday 5th of November 2009 12:05:02 AM

Play Days Dolls · Guru

I think the whole swine flu thing is scary. Some people think it's being overblown, but I'm not sure I agree. A few weeks ago a younger, healthy member of my local Red Hat group died of the swine flu. She was an RN and mid-50's, and her medical issue was periodic asthma. She never got off the ventilator. Anyway... I think that's really scary.

So... anyway, one of my daughters has asthma and finally was able to get the H1N1 vaccine this past Thursday. She had not been able to get the regular flu shot yet because she was having a hard time feeling well enough after her last asthma attack so the Dr. put her on steroids. At least she got the shot now, and her daughter who is 2-1/2 also took the first dose.

Anyway...I really hope you're feeling better now, and your friend, too.

sara zata · Guru

Well here we go again, Sam is going back for surgery again on the 4th Aug, the thing he had removed has grown back and is inside the roof of his mouth, he is going to have that removed and all of his top teeth. He has been so depressed thinking the worst. They said he could be left with a cavity in the roof of his mouth to his nose or his sinus, then he would have to go back and have it repaired, fingers crossed. After that heals he has to have his nose broken and reset as he cant breath though one side. Not an excuse, but that is one of the reasons you haven't seen anymore of my reborns, haven't had time to do any. But I have promised my daughters IVF Doctor that I will make one for them to raffle, so you may have something to look at soon. XXXXXX June.

Tina W. · Guru

So sorry to hear of Sam upcommng surgery but I hope things go well. Your family stays in my prayers hoping things get better for you and Sam.

Dee · Guru

Oh my God June , I am sorry Sam has to go through that again I hope everything goes well for him I will keep him in prayer, I will also pray for you for strength to deal with all of this, I know what it's like to take care of a sick husband.

Buffington · Guru

Oh June! You and Sam are in my prayers always hun! Keep us posted ok? And tell him to get dentures asap after he's healed.
BIG HUGS!

sage brush nursery · Guru

june heres giant HUGS for you and sam, hopeing all goes well.crossing my fingers and toes for you both , boy is walking hard like this.......lol sage aww

sara zata · Guru

LOL, Sage, at least you have your legs crossed. LOL. LOL. XXXXX Thanks for your thoughts. June.

jburle · Senior Member

June~ I my thoughts go out to you and your family. I hope that all goes well for your husband sam and that recovery is fast.

Play Days Dolls · Guru

Life isn't fair!!!! June, I'll be thinking of you and Sam and praying for the very best. Let us know how it goes when you can.

Hugs,

Linda

sara zata · Guru

All this forum family is wonderful, thank you for your thoughts, hopefully it will heal well and he wont have to have a second lot fo surgery to fix the roof of his mouth after surgery has healed. But once again after it has healed he will have to has Nasal reconstruction also, about a month later. This has got to be the last year of all this. He is getting so depressed. XXXXXXX June.

Buffington · Guru

All my best healthy thoughts for you guys, especially Sam hun!

Abby · Senior Member

I've only just seen this post, my goodness Sara, you poor thing!So glad macey is O.k, a child choking is one of my biggest fears, so scary! poor Sam, I hope the op goes well, I'm not religious but will keep my fingers crossed for you xx

sara zata · Guru

Thanks for your thoughts Abby, will keep all posted after the 4th Aug. Will know more then. XXXXXX June.

Buffington · Guru

I will think of you guys while I'm having MORE blood tests :(
I feel like they're going to drain all my blood out with all these lab tests. Now they think I'm diabetic! Can we say scarry (at my age)? I have an unstable thyroid, been that way for years. Now I have peripheral foot neuropothy (numbness in the balls of my feet and under my toes). In trying to get this figured out, now they say I "might" be diabetic. So... I'm having more tests on Mon and I'll keep you posted.

I can truly sympathize with you and Sam, June. It gets pretty tiring and the not-knowing is driving me nuts! I think if they can/will stabilize my thyroid then things will be better. Keep us posted on Sam

Dee · Guru

I hope all of your test are normal, I really hope you are not diabetic, my daugther-in-law is diabetic we have had lots of scares with her she could never get stable with the shots, she has a pump now, it seems to work better for her. I have hypothyroidism have been taking meds for about 15 years. So good luck with your blood tests.

Tina W. · Guru

My husband was diagnosed at 40 for being diabetic! I guess your never too old then came the high blood pressure =( Ahhh to be young and carefree again LOL

Buffington · Guru

WE have a lot of diabetes in my family. Now my father and his brother have type II and they are over 70! They just got it in the last 4 years. My uncle is on the shots now, I'm sure my father will follow. His mom (my grandma) took the pills, her sister was type I and so was her son and his daughter. 2 great aunts on insulin, etc.....

I think if they (drs) would have paid closer attention to my thyroid and my hypoglycemia years ago I wouldn't be in this situation. But I am and the foot numbness scares me more than anything else. I have 2 relatives that had to have amputations! So, not thinking the worst case scenario... I'll be just fine and change my diet and modify my behaviors and that will be that right?!!. With all this maybe it's time to go back on Atkins! I need to loose about 140 lbs anyway. Just won't do all the fats! It still works that way. Lost 60 lbs on it before and I looked and felt great! :)

Tina W. · Guru

Yea me too, my husbad and I were both on it a couple of years ago and it does work, but for as with everything you need to change your ways even after the weight loss to keep it off, thats where we went wrong and gained it back =( We're now working out but for me the weight just doesn't want to budge (I guess it's happy in it's new home lol) so thinking maybe Atkins will give it a nudge to leave then just continue and TRY to maintain it this time. My mom and grandfather were diabetic no shots just pills, my aunt however had to take insulin. My hubands father is on the insulin as well but at 72 he's just now starting to eat a little better, stubborn man, like most I guess. I think your right though and weight, eating right ecct plays a major role in maintaining it. The doctor told my husband if he lost some weight and took better care of himself he wouldn't need the pills anymore (crossing fingers and hoping he listens).

Buffington · Guru

Well here's to Atkins and us! I got the flu after I lost those 60 lbs and so the menu's went out the window. I just never got back on. And I had people giving me flack because they said it wasn't a good program cause you have to "give up all that food" but they don't know the whole program about how in step 2 you get to add back in as your body tolerates that particular food.
One thing I know for sure... I NEVER EVER had any cravings once I got past the first 7-10 days, and for me that was a godsend! I didn't do any emotional eating, nor did I have any other issues. So, I'll get it all together and get on it! Good luck to you and your hubby too!

sara zata · Guru

Will touch wood, I have not had diabetes, but my Nana did. Hopefully it woun't run in the family. Off to Brisbane Wed morning about 5am rise and it has started to get cold again. HATE early rises these days. Will be back on the forum with an update after we get home. ................I have just emailed a letter to the local member, runner for a seat in this hap hazzard election. I have finally turned my back on a party that could turn their back on an Australian Prime Minister the PEOPLE elected, they didn't let him run his full term and I wont be voting for this female that could so easily toss him aside without going to the People first. XXXXXX June.